Valentine’s Day: Attention Single Ladies & Gents

Valentine's Day Heart

So it’s Valentine’s Day. Your surroundings, your TVs, your radio and your computer screens are uncontrollably puking red and pink hearts, chocolates, flowers, mushy words and sentiments, etc., etc., ETC, and you simply can’t escape it. It’s Valentines Day!

There you are, still single, and you begin to feel sorry for yourself when this day starts to seem like it was created solely to destroy you. Well my friends, don’t be sad. 

Instead, look around you. I mean, really LOOK. Take notice of all of the different kinds of love you DO have in your life on Valentine’s Day and every day – from friends, family, pets, the universe, and most importantly, from the almighty you. Love comes in many different shapes and sizes, and being single on Valentine’s Day doesn’t at all equate to being loveless, just like being attached on this day doesn’t always equate to more love or even more happiness.

So this Valentine’s Day and every single one to come, I urge you to say “thank you” to your singleness for as long as it’s there. Thank it for giving you the time and energy to fulfill your dreams and aspirations. Praise it for all of the lessons and the patience it has awarded you with. Kiss it for helping you to not settle for the wrong person, in the wrong place, at the wrong time. Thank it, cherish it, take advantage of it, travel with it, laugh with it, be free with it, drink it up with a nice apple martini or a cold beer. Take it out to dance, sit with it at a great movie, hug it, flirt with it, sleep sprawled across the bed with it, enjoy it. When it’s gone, I have a suspicious little feeling you will miss it a bit, even dare I say, on Valentine’s Day! I know I will.

Happy V-Day ya’ll, and never give up hope! Just live your life, and all that mushy, gooey, good stuff will come when it’s supposed to.  Being single isn’t tragic. Like all of life’s seasons, its beautiful in its own right.

Love,

Sonia, Word Share Junkie

Not All Those Who Wander Are Lost, They Are Alive

Not All Those Who Wander Are Lost

Not all those who wander are lost. It’s a line from the poem All that is gold does not glitter, written by J.R.R. Tolkien for the Lord of the Rings. I’ve never actually seen any of those movies, I know, GASP, but I came across the quote somewhere in social media land today, and I thought, aha! Isn’t that the beauty of the digital age we live in? You can catch small, but meaningful gems at every random click of your mouse. I’m corny, and I know it. Also, I love it. Anyway, here it is:

All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.

From the ashes a fire shall be woken,
A light from the shadows shall spring;
Renewed shall be blade that was broken,
The crownless again shall be king.

That line is so true. Not all those who wander are lost. Some of us have a “nasty” little habit of constant daydreaming, planning, searching, looking – for a little spark, for a new adventure, for a fresh accomplishment, and that some of us is definitely, unequivocally, me. But it doesn’t necessarily mean I’m lost.

All my life, I’ve heard things like:

“You’ll just make yourself unhappy by expecting so much out of life.”

“You have food, water and shelter. What else do you need?” (I’m so serious. I was totally told this at 17.)

“You’re restless. That’s bad for you. Just sit.”

“Oh, stop being crazy. Stop trying to be a hero.”

Despite the nags, I’ve always pushed for more, questioned things, searched for progress, and I strive to move forward in some small way every chance I get. If you’re anything like me, and people also tell you to stop daydreaming, or just settle for what you have, stop being ungrateful, or that you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment, I invite you to take a stand with me, and yell, not all those who wander are lost! 

Try new things. If they don’t work or you fail at a new venture, try something else. Keep moving forward and searching. Make a little tweak here. Make a little tweak there. Never settle. Don’t listen to fear or failure. They are your teachers, your friends, and your road to glory. They are not your enemies. Don’t let anyone make you impossible-minded. Always stay possible-minded and forge ahead. Figure out a way to get where you want to go. Don’t let the passing of time without successes deter you. Triumph rarely happens in a day.

And when you achieve one goal, set the next. Always strive for improvement. Always find new things to excite you and fulfill you. It’s not frivolous or ungrateful, and it doesn’t even mean that you’re entirely unhappy with your current situation. But there is so much to experience in life, why stop at the now?

The day you stop daydreaming, planning, hoping and wishing, I suggest you check your pulse. All those who wander are not lost, baby. They are ALIVE.

Happy, motivated Tuesday ya’ll.

Love,

Sonia, Word Share Junkie