Hate is Hate: The Donald Sterling Fiasco

Hate is HateHey ya’ll.

I’m just now catching up with all of this Donald Sterling news (I know, have I been under a rock?!), and I’m really glad he’s been banned and that it’s been made clear this kind of behavior will not be tolerated in the NBA. Also, WOW. Just WOW. It’s still bone-chilling to me that we live amongst people in 2014 that would still say such things and worst, believe them. It scares me, and it saddens me. And no matter how many times I see it or hear about it, it still shocks me. Maybe I’m living in the ideal versus the real? Who knows.

Anyway, as the ban was announced, I quickly noticed several individuals that would be and have been just as quick and disgusting to say ugly, hateful things about gay people, homeless people, disabled people, overweight folks, etc. etc. etc., all in a rage on social media about the racist comments made by Sterling. Suddenly, I just felt the need to remind everyone that HATE IS HATE. It’s all the same, and it’s all just as horrible, unproductive, mean-spirited and completely unnecessary as the comments made by Donald Sterling. No matter how you slice it, HATE IS HATE, my friends. Regardless of who started it, or who you think deserves it, HATE IS HATE.

So the next time you start to feel like you’re on the right side of it, I urge you to please think again, and please, please keep it to yourself. You don’t have to understand, like or even accept everyone, but please just try and find a way to respect them and keep your negative feelings tucked inside instead of spit off into someone’s face. Respect. It’s the very least every single human being deserves.

Now go out, and have a beautiful, positive, hate-less Tuesday. K. Thanks!

Love,

Sonia, Word Share Junkie

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Grit and Glory: The Battle of Intelligence vs. Grit

Grit and Glory: Hello. I am a survivor.

I absolutely love TED talks. These days it seems I hardly go a day without listening to at least one or two. And each time, I am inspired and reinvigorated to dig a little deeper and push a little farther than I had previously thought I had it in me to do that day.

I find hope, reassurance and energy in every talk. It’s the kind of stuff I truly believe we could all use more of on the daily; real, eye-opening, often sensitive, and perspective-filled content that helps us to live better, to be more open and to experience life, if only for a few minutes, through the words and circumstances of others so that we can learn to be a better version of ourselves.

And, although I don’t think I’ve ever disliked a TED talk, the one I came across today has to be one of my absolute favorites. Go ahead. Trust me. It’s more than worth the six or so minutes.

Angela Lee Duckworth: The key to success? Grit.

There you have it. Grit and glory, baby! Grits are in fact a higher indicator of success than intelligence – I’ve always suspected it, but it’s nice to have a trained psychologist confirm it. In fact, I’ve written on a similar topic before related to a study I came across a few years ago. Grit (and hope) is the reason I’ve arrived anywhere in life. It’s how I made it into graduate school twice even though I’m a terrible standardized test taker (I mean, TERRIBLE). It’s the reason I completed an MBA with honors despite my more than lackluster ability with numbers. It’s how I’ve managed to become pretty tech savvy and contribute more at work. It’s the reason I’ve found my way through difficult economic times. It’s the reason I’ve been successful in my career (success has a different meaning for each of us). My driving force, grit and glory!

It’s how I’ve overcome the extreme shyness I experienced as a child and as an adolescent. It’s how I’ve conquered the emotional issues of my past. And its how I’ve slowly moved away from the statistic I could have easily become and the poverty I was born into (although very first-world in nature). It’s how I’ve managed to do and experience the things that often seemed out of my reach in my previous poor-girl mentality. Yup. You guessed it. Grit and glory!

It’s the reason I’ve accomplished or finished anything in my life – not because I’m smart enough to be a rocket scientist (yeah right!) as many of my schoolmates back in high school would say when they wanted to flatter me into helping them with homework or a big project – but because I have GRIT and lots of it. I never give up. I never take no for an answer if I really want something bad enough. I always find my way. I research. I figure it out. I stay up late. I wake up early. I ask questions. I dig. If this doesn’t work, I’ll try that. I examine all possibilities. And I get it done, whatever it is, and I get it done well. Dare I repeat – grit and glory!

So the next time someone tells you you’re not smart enough, or the next time you start to tell yourself that – I don’t want to hear it. Remember this TED talk and my subsequent rant, and remember that passion and perseverance – or grit – can get you there every time. No excuses, just hustle, grit and glory!

Love,

Sonia, Word Share Junkie